Condoms today are a sign of sexual consciousness, a big neon sign saying no lovin’ unless you put on the love glove, and hopefully, no STD’s, no HIV, no unplanned pregnancies.
On the other hand, it’s also a big fat no to the lingering question to young adults: Are you a virgin? It can also coyly hint that you like doing it. And you like doing it a lot – depending on the size of the Costco pack you have in your nightstand.
This is the side will.i.am of the Black Eyed Peas took in an interview with Elle Magazine. Discussing his humble and conservative perspective his “philosopher” mother placed him under, he says that growing up, he and his family never discussed anything sexual in nature. He didn’t begin to sexually explore until the age of 19. Sexually mature now, he realized seeing condoms in her home could be a deal-breaker for him. Continue reading
Posted in Female, Male, Male and Female, Pop Culture, Relationships, Sex, Uncategorized
Tagged black eyed peas, condoms, elle, Sex, tacky, will.i.am
First, I must preface this post by stating (okay fine, confessing), that I am addicted to hair removal. I pretty much do it all — I shave, I Nair, I thread, I wax and most recently, I laser — so questioning the feminist dilemmas behind hair removal is a big deal for me. And kind of a bad idea, because in the end I will have to choose between being hairy or a hypocrite. But here it goes anyways. Continue reading
Marc by Marc Jacobs
We all know that life is oh so unfair, especially when it comes to our appearance and physiques. There are humans that eat more in one sitting than a pre-hibernation mother bear and still fit snugly into their skinny jeans. There are people like me, who look at food and gain weight. And, we all try our best despite the multiple unexplainable failures. This morning, I tried on at least 15 different outfits and still looked considerably less attractive than the disheveled faux-hippie looking sleepy eyed on the subway.
That’s unfair. But 19-year-old Andrej Pejic is a whole other story. Tall, svelte, perfect bone structure: what makes this model different from other ladies on the runway? Well, she is, in fact, a he: the half Serbian- half Croatian recently donned a wedding dress for Jean Paul Gautier and strutted the Vivienne Westwood catwalk. He’s been sought for editorials in Vogue and is now the new face of Marc by Marc Jacobs —all in womenswear. This boy is now the prettiest girl in town. And I’m laughing myself to tears as I throw my hands in the air, kick back into my chair, and reach for an ice cream tub of self-pity.
What does Andrej teach us? Nothing we haven’t already known (see first sentence) and the additional knowledge that life’s mischief la-dee-da’s over gender barriers. But we’ve known this too. I’ve long tried to ignore the fact that my brother has nicer legs than I do, but I surrender —he’ll be receiving every single pair of my toe-wrenching, high-heeled efforts for longer legs.
We can hate Andrej, or we can love to hate Andrej. The importance in this story is that a boy who used to work at McDonald’s (really, that’s where he was discovered) is becoming an international super star and gender bending while he’s at it. It means that there are different possibilities opening up for different people. And while I do retreat to a certain level of defeatism, there’s a part of me that likes being disproportionate, short, and imperfect. I like complaining and being awkward, it makes me feel human. After all, what would Andrej’s sensationalism and beautiful people in general mean without the beauty of normal people?
Besides, not even the incredible “femiman” icon can’t have it all. He recently said that if offered a contract with lingerie line, Victoria Secret, he would consider a sex change with a nice, perky set of breast implants. “You’d have to, wouldn’t you?” mused Pelic. “I couldn’t imagine doing it any other way.”
Well, you give and you take.
Posted in Female, LGBTQ, Male, Male and Female, Pop Culture, Queer Stuff, Weird Stuff
Tagged Andrej Pejic, Fashion, Jean Paul Gautier, life, Marc Jacobs, modeling, sex change, victoria secret, Youmi Park
I once visited a friend at his very first apartment. “The pad of all bachelor pads,” the one bedroom + living room + bathroom + microwave was his sanctum, a spatial rendition of his independence, which he loved to scatter with crusty plates, liquor bottles, graying miscellaneous articles of clothing, and tissues I didn’t want to know anything about. His messiness was like his symbol of Don’t-Give-A-Fuck manhood. As he watched me maneuver around the expanse of clutter and furniture, he proudly chirped, “Sorry ‘bout the mess! It’s just not a girl’s room.”
Well, gentlemen who believe that ladies keep their rooms perpetually dusted and vanilla-scented: I encourage you to keep dreaming. From my roommate experience with both sexes, I will take a boy over a girl any day. At least men don’t smear mascara on your towels, pile up exorbitant amounts of shoes and clothing everywhere (i.e. on your bed, in the tub, in the kitchen cabinets), or shed like a Wookiee. That’s only the tip of the iceberg.
For the guys attending Rutgers University next fall, you can investigate this for yourselves: come next fall, the school’s new pilot program that will allow students to live in the same dormitory room with the opposite sex. They will be joining one of the many schools today that offer gender-neutral housing plans —University of Maryland, Columbia University, and Ohio University, to name a few.
Posted in LGBTQ, Male and Female, Pop Culture, Uncategorized
Tagged bachelor pad, co-ed, college, gender-neutral, housing, living, roommate, Rutgers, transgender, university, Youmi Park
ABC News is reporting that thousands of American women are channeling a Senior Iranian cleric’s statement last week about the relationship between boobs and earth quakes, as a challenge, and “testing” its validity by whipping out their push-up brows and hiking up their hemlines today.
She was not referring to male visual or behavioral response, but rather to the recent pattern of natural disasters. Hojatoleslam Kazem Sedighi said, “Many women who do not dress modestly … lead young men astray, corrupt their chastity and spread adultery in society, which (consequently) increases earthquakes.”
Jennifer McCreight, 22, set off today’s events by responding to Sedighi’s comment with the declaration of it’s “Time for a Boobquake” and on April 26 she will display as much cleavage as her v-neck will allow. By the end of last week, more than 100,000 women proclaimed they would join in via their Facebook and Twitter pages and celebrate “womanhood.”
Is the “organized” revealing of breasts liberating or does it an example of stepping over a cultural boundary?
How did I just discover this great blog on The L Magazine’s Web site by Audrey Ference?! She talks about everything I want to know. And no, that is not an overstatement! I’m serious–number of sexual partners, BJ’s with/out condoms, and unwanted boners. I mean seriously, have you ever heard of circumcised men who try to regrow foreskin or have it sewn on?? Well, I hadn’t. And my current addiction is reading her column. Check back later this week for a full interview with Audrey…
Posted in Male and Female, Media Tips, Sex
Tagged Audrey Ference, blogs, Blow jobs, boners, condoms, protection, Sex, sexual partners, The L Magazine, Toni Cruthirds
I have met many young women who embrace the idea of having: the same rights as men, the same wage as men, and believe that rapists should be punished more severely. However, if you ask these women if they are feminists, many of them reply “no.”