Condoms today are a sign of sexual consciousness, a big neon sign saying no lovin’ unless you put on the love glove, and hopefully, no STD’s, no HIV, no unplanned pregnancies.
On the other hand, it’s also a big fat no to the lingering question to young adults: Are you a virgin? It can also coyly hint that you like doing it. And you like doing it a lot – depending on the size of the Costco pack you have in your nightstand.
This is the side will.i.am of the Black Eyed Peas took in an interview with Elle Magazine. Discussing his humble and conservative perspective his “philosopher” mother placed him under, he says that growing up, he and his family never discussed anything sexual in nature. He didn’t begin to sexually explore until the age of 19. Sexually mature now, he realized seeing condoms in her home could be a deal-breaker for him. Continue reading
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Tagged black eyed peas, condoms, elle, Sex, tacky, will.i.am
Shout out to all men — how big is your “head”? The size of your penis may not be a physical attribute alone. Recent studies by University of Turin urologists labeled these qualms of penile size as “short penis syndrome
Many men feel that they are inadequate, but most of the time their size actually falls within the normal size range. Although the famous Kinsey Diaries
defined the average male penis size to be 6 inches, the Daily News
reports that the average penis size measures “between 3 and 4 inches (7.6 to 10.2 centimeters) when flaccid and between 5 and 7 inches (12.7 to 17.8) centimeters when erect.”
researchers also warn against spending money on pills, pumps, or procedures that could be costly and unsuccessful. Some of these may even damage or disfigure your penis. Many sources agree that while there really isn’t any surefire way to increase your penis length there are certain things you can do to help:
1. Trim down there. Shorter pubic hair won’t just make your penis look longer by revealing more – the Mayo Clinic suggests it can also increase sensitivity. So double win.
2. Do some crunches. An abdomen that doesn’t flab over your genitalia can also make your member look smaller than it really is. Exercise to get rid of the excess weight.
3. Talk it out. If you still swear that you’re not adequate, talk to a counselor. There are plenty of professionals ready to reassure you that you are the perfect size.
– Ji Hyun Park
Marc by Marc Jacobs
We all know that life is oh so unfair, especially when it comes to our appearance and physiques. There are humans that eat more in one sitting than a pre-hibernation mother bear and still fit snugly into their skinny jeans. There are people like me, who look at food and gain weight. And, we all try our best despite the multiple unexplainable failures. This morning, I tried on at least 15 different outfits and still looked considerably less attractive than the disheveled faux-hippie looking sleepy eyed on the subway.
That’s unfair. But 19-year-old Andrej Pejic is a whole other story. Tall, svelte, perfect bone structure: what makes this model different from other ladies on the runway? Well, she is, in fact, a he: the half Serbian- half Croatian recently donned a wedding dress for Jean Paul Gautier and strutted the Vivienne Westwood catwalk. He’s been sought for editorials in Vogue and is now the new face of Marc by Marc Jacobs —all in womenswear. This boy is now the prettiest girl in town. And I’m laughing myself to tears as I throw my hands in the air, kick back into my chair, and reach for an ice cream tub of self-pity.
What does Andrej teach us? Nothing we haven’t already known (see first sentence) and the additional knowledge that life’s mischief la-dee-da’s over gender barriers. But we’ve known this too. I’ve long tried to ignore the fact that my brother has nicer legs than I do, but I surrender —he’ll be receiving every single pair of my toe-wrenching, high-heeled efforts for longer legs.
We can hate Andrej, or we can love to hate Andrej. The importance in this story is that a boy who used to work at McDonald’s (really, that’s where he was discovered) is becoming an international super star and gender bending while he’s at it. It means that there are different possibilities opening up for different people. And while I do retreat to a certain level of defeatism, there’s a part of me that likes being disproportionate, short, and imperfect. I like complaining and being awkward, it makes me feel human. After all, what would Andrej’s sensationalism and beautiful people in general mean without the beauty of normal people?
Besides, not even the incredible “femiman” icon can’t have it all. He recently said that if offered a contract with lingerie line, Victoria Secret, he would consider a sex change with a nice, perky set of breast implants. “You’d have to, wouldn’t you?” mused Pelic. “I couldn’t imagine doing it any other way.”
Well, you give and you take.
Posted in Female, LGBTQ, Male, Male and Female, Pop Culture, Queer Stuff, Weird Stuff
Tagged Andrej Pejic, Fashion, Jean Paul Gautier, life, Marc Jacobs, modeling, sex change, victoria secret, Youmi Park
In the latest issue of The Revealer, NYU religious studies professor Angela Zito adds her voice to the debate on Maureen Dowd’s article, “Worlds Without Women,” which I touched upon last week. In my post, “Maureen the Menace Strikes Again,” I briefly critiqued Dowd’s conflation of the oppression of women by the Roman Catholic Church with the sexual abuse of children committed by many of its priests. But in her article, “Imagine This! Or Can a Church Hierarchy Become a Catholic Community?” Zito picks apart another of Maureen’s misunderstandings: maternity. Continue reading
Posted in Children, Female, Male, Religion, Sex
Tagged Angela Zito, maternity, Maureen Dowd, Priesthood, Roman Catholic Church, sexual abuse, The Revealer
I have met many young women who embrace the idea of having: the same rights as men, the same wage as men, and believe that rapists should be punished more severely. However, if you ask these women if they are feminists, many of them reply “no.”
In her latest folly, Maureen Dowd severely misrepresents the issue of child molestation in the Roman Catholic Church. Her article, “Worlds Without Women,” criticizes the ascetic celibacy of the all-male priesthood. She even suggests that by being more inclusive of women, the Church could have avoided these tragic abuses. But ascetic celibacy is not the cause of child molestation, and Dowd is wrong to take up this issue in the name of women’s liberation. For her, these abused children are just an image to be manipulated–a means to her end: Continue reading
In his 2001 article on racialized sexuality, anthropologist Rudold P. Guadio writes about spending 16 months in Nigeria where he studied language use in relation to homosexuality. A self-identified “Euro-American gay male anthropologist,” Guadio interacted mostly with ‘yan daudu, men in northern Nigeria “who are said to talk and act like women.” They are known as “feminine” because they cook, sell food, and use what is called “women’s talk.” While some Hausa men used the English term “homo” to describe their sexuality, the more common phrase was mai harka, which is translated to “one who does the deed.” Calling it “the deed” implies that it is an unmentionable act, yet it unifies the men in Guadio’s story. Continue reading